Over ‘CnC’: Lesson #2 Being a kid *sigh*

I love kids… but not the ones who continue to remain kids well after they’ve entered adulthood. This has to be a sample of ‘Look I am so dumb, I can act like one & still not know it!’

  

*Dialogues that were directed at me*

  

“She is indulging in politics (or to imply thus). She didn’t ask me if I wanted to go with her to the canteen for lunch & went with XYZ instead!”

Oh yeah! That sure is politics… my political motto being… ‘I don’t give out special scented invitation cards when I’m going to the canteen for lunch!!!’ And the last I knew, the canteen was a free-for-all entry… I couldn’t stop you even if I wanted to!

(PS: the dialogue speaker & XYZ are both girls… (& so am I)…so it isn’t a love triangle theory)

  

Another alteration of this story…with another person… was that I didn’t talk to her. No, no…it wasn’t like I didn’t talk to her… it was like…I didn’t serve a platter of conversation in front of her while she was getting bored! Now I can understand the need of an invitation for joining me for lunch but an invitation for a conversation! Hell! I would give that pleasure even to a stranger w/o any excess effort…then what does a friend have to question in that?

 

*Dialogues that weren’t directed at me*

 

“I want to be in that other division. All my friends are in that class!” and a flood of tears.

Well, I understand if a toddler does this. But a (then) 21 year old??? Its outright hilarious. Wait, wait… actually approaching a professor with this reason & requesting him?… Lol!!

 

I fail to understand why people can’t act their age. How foolish can one get in an attempt to draw the focus towards them? Hell! If anything, such scenarios R-E-A-L-L-Y help me understand my friends/humans better!

Over ‘CnC’ : Lesson #1 Being Single v/s Being Committed (& dumb)

I have nothing against couples. Some of my friends are the best couples ever (or so is the belief). Since I have personally been on both sides, I have to say, that being single is the winner!

 

Let’s see why… having a partner can be so amazing! Just think of all the things that you do when you have a guy (or a gal)…

 

You can talk incessantly with your partner… how your day has been, what you did, what you said to your best friend, how you bitched about that ‘bitch’, what time you woke up, what ‘mummy’ made for lunch… *yawns* …’can you like please stop?’

 

Or you can tell your partner 1440 times in a day how much you love him/her (that’s the no. of mins in a day, by the way)

 

Or you can tell your friends that you already have plans for the day… which turns out to be going for a movie with your partner… no, no…that’s nothing to debate about. Even if you’ve just spent 8 hours with your partner in the college already. And when your friend cries and threatens your friendship, if you don’t go out with her that very minute… you agree instantly… and then friend, committed friend and committed friend’s partner go on a ’sort of dates’.

 

What the hell am I driving at? Only this… of all the lovely couples I know, not one has a sense of individuality!

 

For instance, You just missed your train… what the heck do you do? Check on the next train and get tickets?… heck, no! call your boyfriend… ‘Honey! I just missed my train… sniff…what should I do?’

‘Sweety, find out about the next one & get on it.’

And then you check up and get onto the next train

 

Or… you have to fill in a form and choose between 2 subjects…and you don’t know what to choose… simple… (you guessed it!)… ‘Honey, should I take up subject A or B?’

Here, the situation is not akin to the train problem. Our dear ‘Honey’ isnt even in our stream and to him both A & B are like Martians…aliens I mean.

(oh, his reply was somewhere around, we’ll check up the syllabus & decide)

 

Or… ‘I have to go to college and give a presentation’… ‘Sweety , I love you so much… I’ll be a nut and sit through your presentation’… (even though I have office (do you now?))

 

I really am not questioning (or mocking) anyone’s love or their relationships. What I’m trying to find out is… is it required on one’s part to lose your complete sense as a person simply because you want to be dedicated to someone? How dependent can you grow (& be proud of it) on another? To the extent where what your partner says is the ultimate truth?

 

I do not see this as the perfect couple. Ideal love is not this way, when I see it. To be in a relationship… means reveling in each others company, seeking comfort in each others arms… but not at the cost of wiping out your own self from it. Forget that, hell! It doesn’t mean you have to act dumb and pretend you cant think on you own!

 

Being emotionally involved is one thing, but to have your brains sucked out like that! If you still go onto glorify such a relationship… I’m all for being single!

OVER CIGARETTES AND COFFEE

 

 

First onto the title..     

 

Cigarettes are certainly not my kind of thing. So the inclusion of this word in the title is merely for the purpose of setting the ambience of this piece of writing. Certainly coffee is to my taste, and over the course of time, during which all these ramblings have been accumulated, coffee was a constant factor on the table. This writing doesn’t cater to the need of granting truth, much less knowledge. It is purely for the sake of penning it down that I’m doing this, and in your case, solely the reason that at some point of time, you’ve managed to stumble across this piece and I’ve managed to capture your interest thus far that you continue to read this.

 

How my mind first conceived all this…

 

It was a simple task really. Boredom & the need for socializing led to some out of the classroom hanging out, with a few faithful. Faithful because any gossip (to the extent of being nasty) did not find its way back to the person around whom the gossip revolved. Sometimes the feelings were mutual, and I could literally see the fires flaming high. Sometimes it was just my mouth blabbering and a silent listener taking it all. Either way, it got things through my ears, into my head and out of my mouth. What is indeed challenging in the entire sequence of events are “names”. It was always a matter of contention, to take names and talk. Of course in the absence of names, things could be said without any reservations at all but then there was no fun (and yeah, fun at the stake of twisting and mutilating the truth for the sake of amusement and entertainment!).

 

I know, its wrong, detestable, perhaps outrageous too, to speak ill of others. But let me clear this up. What I voice out is an analysis conducted solely on the basis of an observation of a person. I dissect severely, no denying that, right to the minutest level of detail and talk/ruminate over it. But at no point do I judge people. In fact, I’m not judgmental about people. What they do, say, think is entirely their occupation and none of my concern, but yes, certainly a matter of notice and talk.

 

And for the last time…

 

…will I justify the use of the word ‘cigarettes’. Just the way, it ends up in smoke and ash, so do most of such ramblings, but I do recognize the potential harm such talks can cause..injury…fatal injury…and yes, I’m aware of it all the while!!

 

PS – I think its only fair to give each such conversation a life of its own… look out for posts with Over ‘C n C’ for continuation…